“Fit Shaming” is where someone attempts to humiliate, mock or make fun of a person for trying to take steps to better him or herself via fitness and nutrition. This may sound ludicrous, but it’s a thing. Haters gonna hate, so I say, “Hate away!”
Look, it’s hard enough to take yourself out of your comfort zone. You don’t need anyone trying to derail your efforts. But that’s exactly what the haters will do. They’ll call you vain. They might even mock your daily protein intake or the fact that you order a burger without a bun.
Anytime you’re moving forward in the world, there will always be nay-sayers trying to bring you down to their level. If your social network isn’t interested in fitness and nutrition, don’t be surprised if you start catching flack from them.
Of course, real friends support one another. You might join a gym or even try a 21 day fitness challenge! Those who join or at least support you are your friends. The ones that taunt you with donuts in the office are the ones who don’t understand (or don’t care) about your goals.
Here's an example of what fit shaming looks like:
You: So I just joined a gym and I started a fitness challenge! I’m pretty excited. I really want to get in shape.
“Friend”: Good luck with that...
You: What do you mean?
"Friend": I used to workout, but it never really worked for me. I felt like I was getting bulky and the cardio machines at the gym were always really crowded. Let me know when you're done with your fad diet.
Ok so that one was pretty blatant, but how about a sneakier approach?
“Friend”: Oooooh, we should get pizza and ice cream tonight.
You: I’m really watching what I’m eating and although that sounds amazing, I’m doing 1 “free” meal per week right now and I had it yesterday.
“Friend”: Whatever, you work out so much that you’ll burn it off in like 5 minutes. Stop making me feel bad.
Sound familiar? I use the term “Friend” very loosely here. Just because your friend couldn’t commit to a program and didn’t have the motivation to get the results they were looking for should NOT deter you in the slightest. If anything, you may inspire them to take action again and actually stick with it this time!
Where does this hate come from? Most often, it stems from insecurities of the individual doing the shaming. If you and your “friend” are both equally unfit now, it’s like you’re on the same team. Unfortunately, that team is never going to make it to the playoffs… When you jump ship and start pitching for the opposing team, they may feel betrayed or even judged by you!
Let them call you vain. Let them mock your weekly food prep. As they try to shame you back into your old habits, use it as motivation to stay the course. Every time you make a positive decision to better yourself, you could be inspiring the haters who were previously judging you. Remember, not everyone jumps on the GAINZ train at the same stop.
- Write down the goals that you want to achieve
- Write down WHY you want to achieve them
- Do at least one thing every day to make those goals a reality
- Surround yourself with supportive, like-minded individuals
- Let the haters hate!